Thanks for posting your suggestion that maybe I reach out to H - cause you are right I dont have much to lose. I'm thinking about it, but I have found patience and can wait a long time before making a move now!! There is a slight pattern that H only goes 3 weeks before there is some small amount of contact. I was hoping that after our last exchange the gap between contact might narrow, but this is week 2 so obviously not yet.
I'm extremely hesitant to initiate any contact because when I look back on our relationship whenever I made a step towards him he seemed to take two backwards. If we are going to have a new relationship he is going to need to invest in the relationship (otherwise I'm not interested), not just be along for the ride. And I do really really believe that he has got to sort his problems out for himself, instead of relying on me to fix them for him - so I'm happy to wait and give him the space to do that.
I think that I have been very good DB-ing the last times we've talked, and I never said anything negative or that would have been pressure, I've just kept everything light and friendly. There are plenty of excuses H could use to contact me if he wanted to (e.g. I know he is still paying my health insurance every month, and he knows he has stuff here that he needs to pick up) but he is obviously choosing not to. And he has proved that he is physically capable of texting me just to check how I am, so i trust that he can do that again in the future if he wanted to.
Right those are all my reasons to help me stick out no contact for another 2 weeks. If I haven't heard anything then i will send him a little text about the health insurance.
Unfortunately nothing juicy again for my post! Just waiting, waiting, waiting!
