H is having affair after all

[Holly06]

Well well well,,,,,
I am funny?

Naughty, maybe but funny is a sexy trait in men, and I assure you I am not a man.
I have the waxing lady's affidavit to prove it

Thank you 25, I couldn't have said it better myself.
The pair of them, will be sporting burning ears, and have to fight the embarrassment the whole trip. Your part is to be graceful and dignified as you wave them off.

Let the community do their work.
They will!!!!!

I have read also, that men will attack to cover up their feelings of guilt,shame and despair. So the more he puts on "the mask of bravado" the more you KNOW he is hurting.

It just takes a while to try every avenue to shut off the pain valve, and then they look inward, to themselves as the cause of their pain. They they go through "heck". Well, the worser version of it. (yes I know worser isn't a word, it just sounded good to me!)

James OConnell is the one who enlightened me the most about what these men are going through.

BTW Evie, have I told you that I want you to consider your H in midlife crisis?
Think about it , and do the research here on the website to support or deny your thoughts.

You may find yourself hurt to recognize what you are experiencing in print. You may find relief in that there are so many of us before that have and are fighting this alien monster.
It devours you if you let it.

The MLC monster also makes you feel guilty. Don't go there. This is not your fault.

You talked to some friends. Women do this. It is a survival technique we ALL use to fight hurt feelings.
Everyone has done it, and we will all do it to an extent.
Doing this will diminish with time, as you will wear your friends out with all this, they just can't understand.
That is why we are here.

You will make more mistakes DBing. That is part of the journey. Dust yourself off and get right back on the trail. We all do, and it is part of the process.

Let me put this in a perspective that you might understand.

When you have an adult or child that needs to learn to swim, you expect them to listen to instructions and get in the water and do a 400m IM, right?
No? There are fine details, and trial and errors to make that swim their own? You mean you might advise me to take out my fly faster, but really what I need to do is balance out the fly/back and breast/free splits? You mean I should personalize my swim?
Stop with the guilt. You are in a learning process. You have enough pain so don't do a 400 IM today, ok?


CHeers
Holly

PS, I would love the job, but the commute is more than I can handle.......