W did a girls night with some of our mutual friends last night and then went on to a party afterwards where she smoked maruana and got drunk really quickly, threw up and got put to bed by one of her girlfriends.
Saw her this evening and sat with her for about an hour and a half, we chatted nicely and laughed some, she told me about the party last night and a possible new job thing on Tuesday.
Her parents are away for a week on holiday and she said that she is going to stay there On Wed and maybe Thur with some workfriends and smoke maruana. She is out this evening with some friends and going for an indian maybe, said she won't be back late. She did some of my washing (for a change), I also made her some toast.
She got changed to go out and I told her she looked nice, she said that she had lost weight and bizzarely said that she might fit into her wedding dress again?!?!?!??!
Incidentally she said that she cannot party with 20 year olds as she is knackered, and she looks tired and has been tired for ages, she did nothing today apart from lay on the sofa, watch telly and doze (she told me, I was out).
She only mentioned briefly about noting things down for spliting up the house for the divorce and mentioned something about us being 'split up'
She also offered me breakfast in the morning?
It seems that we are getting a bit friendlier which is good but I want it to move up a few gears (not up to me I know)
The thing I find really upsetting is that she does not seem to care about the 'fact' we are getting a divorce, she is acting a bit like a teenager and does not seem to care that we are MARRIED and what we have done together. She seems to want to chuck it all in to live at her parents WTF!!!!!!!
It is really hard and difficult to know which way it is going? she is my wife and I love her and want to do things with her, be intimate, sleep with her(sex) and stay in the same bed as her.
I have improved myself in many ways, physically, emotionally, mentally and I am ready to move forward as a great HUSBAND and partner.
How do these things go, does anyone have a rough idea? there has been no physical contact for 7 weeks and we have had seperate bedrooms, there has been no inclination so far on her part to even try with our marriage and relationship.
Since I have backed off and started focussing on me, she has approached me more and we have been able to spend some nice time together? am I doing the right thing? how do I (if i can) move it onto the next stage?
What do I do, how do I do it? are things going ok? How do I get my wife back?
Any advice appreciated
Thanks
Gavin
Me: 30 W: 31 T: 9.5 yrs M: 4 Yrs No Kids, 1 cat Had a bad year Turmoil started 22/Jan/08 Seperated, same house 30/Jan/08 Wanted D: 2/Feb/08 Going downhill and towards D with nothing stopping her!
