Thanks Jeff! I will try to "be still" this weekend....actually I am going to Iowa for 2 bday parties but I will "be still" in terms of any M actions.....
H just called, he sounded like he was in a pretty decent mood actually. He has not been crabby ONCE on the phone since I sent him the letter, and we have talked 3 or 4 times. Also had a couple e-mail exchanges re. this weekend, the kids, etc. He called from the office (it showed up on caller ID) and said he was getting ready to go, but had a stop to make on the way down (I am guessing more bathroom supplies, or home to his parents' for his shaving kit).
Means he will not get here until 9:30, so S will get to stay up late! We said he could wait up for H to get home...
Earlier today I sent him out my new e-mail address--I just sent it out with a tagline, "This is my new e-mail address FYI", nothing more. Anyway he replied, "Is this in Kansas or in Iowa, and did you decide what you are going to do (re. moving up there) or are you waiting to hear from your foot doctor?"
I need to find out from orthopedic doctor if I need extensive therapy before I can move to Iowa, bc since I fell in KS and it is worker comp I have to get treatment in KS or they don't pay for it.
I replied back that I was waiting for word from dr. to make a decision. Of course we all overanalyze but I wonder why it matters to him when I am moving or not moving since I said in my letter I wasn't moving in with him anyway???
Guys I know you will thump me for even bringing this up, but H just called, again....he is at his parents house, a cow of his started calving 30 min ago and is having difficulty. He said he was trying to get his dad to take over b/c he really wanted to come down tonight. Said he would be here in the morning at the latest, said even if he got up at 4 a.m. he'd be here to eat breakfast with the kids. I said talk to S, he will be disappointed. H said "I am disappointed too, not just about missing S".
I just realized before posting that when he called from work, he called from the work phone line so it showed up work on the caller ID. Then when he called to say he was at his parents' house, he called from their phone (remember earlier this week his mom got mad he was on THEIR long distance ) to say he was stuck there calving. Normally he would just use his cell. Wonder if he wants to make sure I know he really is where he says he is...during our rough times living together with the A, if he was out late on a Friday no matter what he said I would assume he was with OW. But I can tell from his calls tonight that he is not...
Anyway thump me for overanalyzing, but it is an addiction/weakness I will have to work on.....
#1 bikini waxing helps when you are out partying, take it from me... #2 keep your eyes open, notice his little/bigger changes and stay put. Just watch him. That's not overanalysing, reading between the lines isn't overanalysing, making up lines just to read between them is (that's my phrase).
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDS (and for your poor H)...
These are good signs and you are not over analyzing. However, stick to your guns. Don't go soft and don't let him sweet talk his way back. Make him show you the quan. Make him show you in actions and not words that he deserves you.
Kalni, We must go to different parties, I never went to one where a bikini wax was required! (just teasing you I love your adventures!)
I actually laughed when I read the phrase "poor husband". Funny, I do a lot to help "take care" of him but to read it out loud it sounds so ridiculous!! He will be a poor husband when he realizes what he has lost in me.....
Glad you had some happy time tonight. I need to do the same! I am drinking cabernet and watching TV on my own, but actually I like myself enough that i don't really mind being alone much of the time...
Anyway thanks for cheering me up, you always find a way!
Show the quan!! Now I am laughing. Thanks to you and Kalni, I don't think I will fall into a severe depression any time soon! You raised my smile level an inch or two tonight...just when I was wanting to toss in my towel...
I will "be still", I know that is the best course and I have heard it a few times today. I hope he is showing some slim signs of awakening from his emotional coma but time and actions will tell.
It is hard to be pi$$ed at a cow, but I am tonight b/c she is keeping my H from seeing his kids. One cow is finally/maybe out of the picture (OW), and here comes another one. And this one is pregnant.....
Hi BobbiJo, I guess you are in Iowa now so I don't know if you will see this for awhile. I think if is funny that your H hasn't mentioned your e-mail. That is exactly what my H would do. H never discusses anything in person that I text. If I bring something up on the phone he never brings it up again. It sounds like your H is testing the waters by asking about your plans. Trying to figure out if BBJ has more of a backbone than he does. And at least you know he didn't sleep w/ this cow!
today he joined me & the kids at the zoo. So what did I do to MY poor H? I left him run arround with the kids while I had a cold freddo coffee with my GFs (who were gracious enough to let him babysit their kids as well -6 in total ages 7 to 2) and then I let him buy us lunch (ordered everything on the menu)and wished him "a lovely evening at work" when we separated...
) to say he was stuck there calving. Normally he would just use his cell. Wonder if he wants to make sure I know he really is where he says he is...during our rough times living together with the A, if he was out late on a Friday no matter what he said I would assume he was with OW. But I can tell from his calls tonight that he is not...