Quoting KAW: Could this be some what she is trying to deal with in C? If so, why won't she talk to me about it? If it involves D9, shouldn't I be included? How do I approach it so she is willing to talk to me about it?
It doesn’t matter if it involves D9, KAW. What goes on in your W’s C is between her and her C. It’s up to your W if she wants to share any of it with you.
I know you want to help your W, KAW. But there are times when she has to figure things out for herself. If she has emotional issues that she’s working through with her C, she may want to deal with them before sharing them with you.
Perhaps she’s in the middle of working through something that she doesn’t want to become part of the wall that’s come between you and her. She wants to make it disappear. If she reveals it to you, it’ll be there forever.
It’s rare that a single issue doesn’t affect multiple aspects of one’s life. She’s trying to stop the spread. Let her do it, KAW.
You’re still scared that her C will muck things up. Let it go.
