I made a long post in my solution journal about my WAW picking up dog. Was curious your thoughts about her not coming in my house. I know our 5D was asleep in the car but she has not done this once before and honestly she wouldn't have been inside but just a second. Is this a reflection of awkwardness? Or more of a reflection of not doing anything to give me hope? She was quite friendly when I showed her videos of 5D at dance class from my cell phone. We stood very close and our fingers couldn't help but graze one another several times. Weird feeling being that close and not touching each other...anyhow, I was wondering your thoughts about not coming in the house.
Sorry I am just making it around. I know how much the support on this board means. When she picked up the dog was she just getting home from her trip? To be completely honest my first reaction was that she was just tired from her trip and looking forward to getting home to relax. Even when my marriage wasn't on the rocks and I came home from a trip the only thing I could think of doing was getting into pj's, plopping on the couch and relaxing. You didn't mention anything odd about her behavior so my honest impression is that neither giving you hope or a feeling of akwardness crossed her mind and she was looking forward to relaxing. Keep your head up. You are doing great!!!
I am going to pick up the H from the hospital in a few from his knee surgery. I'll keep you posted. Thanks for asking.
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Thanks HiC, my solution buddy pointed out how I feel when I go inside my WAW's house and then said how do you think she feels. Just drew a big red circle around why would she feel any different. Besides, she didn't come to visit. She came for the dog...the rest of the visit was positive in my opinion. Especially, how close we stood next to each other watching 5D vids..."neither giving you hope or a feeling of akwardness crossed her mind" - this I believe is true...thanks for your insight once again...
I am praying for you and your H's upcoming surgery...I think it's great that he wants you to take/pick him up...that just says a lot to me.
Your situation seems to be moving along nicely. I am proud of you. Can't wait to hear how picking him up and taking care of him goes.
I am doing a 180. Since she was gone for 5 days on business, I now have to do the same. It's tough; because I just want to see my kids and her. I have been doing the LRT and just working at staying positive the few times I am around her. I can't believe how much work that is.
Again, I wish you the best and can't wait for an update.
I think you guys are spot on with putting God first. Chances are if we had done this none of us would be here. But all things work to the good ya know. I don't see any hope that my WAW is turning back to the Lord but that really is her concern and I must just focus on my walk. Glad to see so many of you seeing the spiritual side of our situations.
I guess what I should have said is that I cannot force that on her. Any word at all about God to her and she tells me to stop preaching to her. Although, since I have been doing the 180 she seems to not draw back as much when I talk about my experiences in my daily walk.
