Can "sleeping on it" be consider a DBing technique?

W seems to think so... The alarm went off this morning. I opened my eyes to see W's back turn towards me. I took a chance and snuggled up behind her. She didn't react in any way. So we laid like that for a few minutes before she turned the radio off and turn around to give me a kiss. Then she invited me to take a shower with her. So the whole time as we got ready to start the day, she remained quiet and kinda of somber, but she was not longer trying to keep her distance. So backing off stop her from running, but I was confident that it would and wasn't really concerned over that.

So it seems like the crisis as far as W is concerned is over. However, nothing is resolved. It is becoming a pattern of my W rejecting D9's affections some of the time. Its just before I never said anything, but the pattern needs to be broken before she starts to drive D9 away and some permanent harm occurs.

Most of you may not remember, but in my first thread I breifly mention our D17 that had moved out from under our roof Jan, 2002 during our darkest time. Both W & I handled miserable our R with D17 (who was 16 at the time). I certainly do want to start down that road again with D9.

BTW, story with D17 is now on a happier chapter as well, but she will never return home and that has had a very heavy impact on W.

What worries me the most about all of this is ... this is just another instance of a major stumbling block in our R. W's inability to talk about her feeling and thoughts about her role in this family. Despite trying new approaches thru DBing I have had very little success of making any headway on bring closer together on this front and its a major wall between us. I guess this is out of my hands for now until she works thru some of this with C. That appears to be my only hope towards tearing down this wall.

'til later,
KAW