How to win my wife back? HELP!!

[smileysmile1966]

I am so lonely. It has been 7 mths now since we departed from our marital house. Do you think I am ever going to get her back now after all this? I am still in pain and I wish we were together. But she has a loose tongue as I have found. Pretending to be somebody else and she tells hims I was controlling over our 2.5 yr R and I as 'Tony' fished a little more and texted her if he hit her? She replied, kinda of at the end..only!

She has slapped me hard that night across the face because she wouldn't let me sleep as I had to be up early so I lightly pushed her out of my room and she kept coming back. Then I did it again and she wacked me across the face so I restrained her by the arms onto the bed and said don't ever do that again!
That has happened a few times.
Anyway, I think the tension was evident because we were splitting up and she didn't really want it but she knew she had to do it. She was angry and had a lot of resentment inside her because of my behaviour she had no choice.
So please wise DBers what am I supposed to do now??

Yes I will refrain from 'hassling' her. I will now not do anything like I did because I know what she is capable of.
She did truly love me. That hurts because she was feeling that 19 mths ago when she married me. According to her I got worse after the baby was born 16 mths ago.
I wish I had done something to sort myself out. I am seeing a counsellor but I need to see a clinical pyschologist. A part of my brain needs erasing. The part that makes me want to self destruct. I had it all. I really did. The icing on the cake was our D. Now I have nothing but visitation to see my D on a devised rota which I am happy with.
How can somebody lose that love when I still have it in me for her?