Okay...get this you guys....and ladies of course. This topic is appropriately named and this is why....
So, I am in the process of getting a home and my two kids are dying to move out...S16/D14. They can't stand their Mom or the the inbred she married, my EX best friend. I call to let EX know that the kids will not be with me this weekend and the reason why? So I can have them Easter weekend instead. She agrees...no problem. She then says that she needs to meet up, with the kids also, to "talk". I say fine....when and where. Here's the turn of events:
She sets up the date and time....I argue because I cannot meet at that time....too late in the day. She says it is important....but she is not hearing that my commute sucks and that I have to be on the road waaaaay before 630pm. I hang up....she calls back an hour later....new time, same date. I agree, we hang up. An hour and a hlaf into my drive home....my D14 calls me. Very interesting convo with her. She tells me that the reason why we are meeting up the next day is because my EX and her inbred husband have orders to overseas! Wow!!!! Holy crap! So my D14 pleads to me not to say anything and act like at the meeting that this is all "news" to me. I agree....tell her not to worry, and hang up. Next day....we all meet up her and the kids. They are quiet....Ex is acting nice. She goes into the talk about how "they" have orders. I just give the eyebrow raise and say, "Interesting". She then says that she is leaving the decision up to the kids if they want to go with her or stay with me and that she is not forcing them. I ask each with the line of "you don't have to give an answer right now and that I am okay with whatever they decide". My S16 right off the bat says he is staying....no question. He wants to finish his last two years of school here in the U.S. D14...she wants to stay.
Sooooo....I tell EX that if either one of the kids wants to visit her or she wants to have them fly over to be with her....SHE will pay for transportation. She agreed. She says, "I would like to know that you will reciprocate that if it is the other way around". I agreed.
She asks about me getting a place yet....I told here...3 bd/2.5 ba....2400 sq.ft......she says oh...ok...and then wants to know when she can starts bringing the kids things over. I tell her, "I will let you know when I get the keys." Some other things were said but mostly to the affect...don't bring over crap to just be able to get rid of it. And of course....she wants to do this because "I have to start getting ready to stage the house for it to be shown on the market."
My D14 calls me that same day after having an arguement with EX and D14 tells me that EX told D14 that they would NOT be moving in with me until July....a month before they are supposed to be overseas. Why? Because she wants child support payments until that month and it is extra money for her to use on fixing up that rathole she calls a home.
If that is the case....then NOTHING of the kids stuff will be brought over unless they will be with me. PERIOD. She wants to get it out? She can pay for storage.....and the kicker? She has the kids starting to pack already!!!!!! 4 1/2 MONTHS EARLY!!!!
I imagine you and your kids deserve some time to acclimate to not having mom around at all. At least that is the argument I would present to her.......
Possibly....but they did live with me after we were D'd in the first place......but I think the part for them acclimating will be AFTER she is out of the country!
It'll be close to their schools. I'm hoping that my D14's bus will pick her up in that area or I'll have to take her to the nearest one.
Yes....she will be paying support when she moves overseas...hence why she will not let them move in with me till July.....her last month of free money!
what great news! I bet you are thrilled! I am so happy for you
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
