In the end he felt that the "consequences he would have to pay would outweigh the good" and he had to move on.
Hope,
I am so sorry for your pain. I know that this has to hurt badly because his behavior right now is that of a person who is rational. He has some really good sounding arguments. Now just to clarify here, I am not trying to talk you into anything. You are the only one who knows what is best for you. Mourn the loss of your old marriage. I just see here that he has not seen the real you yet. My next question is, What is he going to say when this new R, doesn't work out either. I can't help but feel from what I have read that your H is afraid of trying again...afraid that the hurt he caused will haunt him forever if he is with you. However, what he doesn't know yet...is that he will be haunted by his behavior until he deals with it...no matter who he is with.
Take care of yourself, if a D is NOT what you want, then I wouldn't do anything to help with it. Just follow his lead. I am praying for all of us.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
