AH, thank you. I can continue to post for a while. It helps to talk about all of this, as you well know. I can tell you that he also told me one thing he'd wished he'd done three years ago was go to counseling before he'd made any bad choices. But he always follows these things up with, "But I can't change the past." I certainly know that and don't expect him to. I have seen regret from him and heard him talking about things he is doing to try to move forward, better himself. It hurts that he wants to take someone else's hand now and begin a new, healthier life.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
