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[troubled_husband]

One more positive thing to add: Up until 3 years ago, I spent most of my time in a powerchair because of a neurological injury. The doctors did not hold out any hope of recovery. (They were wrong. That is one of the miracles I have been a part of but that is also a different story.) This had been a degenerative situation that actually started before we were married (although we did not know the severity of it at the time). My W stayed with me through those times and many times picked me up to put me back in a chair or a bed, got me food, etc. I stayed with the marriage in those times because I saw no other option. I needed someone to help me and if that meant putting up with yelling, screaming, etc then so be it. I also thought it was a small price to pay for the compassion that was given.

In some ways, I am willing to put in extra effort to save this marriage because of those times.

I am beginning to think that although there have been problems in the marriage from the beginning, the sudden and dramatic change in my condition has amplified them. I think my wife was quite satisfied with the caretaker role and losing that may be creating an MLC. She also stated that she was glad when my condition eventually made sex a lower priority for me (it was low for her from the start) since it took the pressure off her.

It is somewhat painfully ironic that the depression I have over the M sometimes keeps me from living the gift that I have been given with physical restoration. I guess the GAL part is important here.