.... The next year or so was rocky. I discovered EA with OM continued for a while and we had some extreme problems. That is over now and has been for 18 or so months. Out relationship is now very good, I think.
Now the problem, our sex life SUCKS. ... Now, she basically just wants me to stick it in and be done. She won’t let me touch her, caress her, or anything. She won’t even kiss (w/ tongue) me anymore. Kisses are limited to a quick peck. (As an aside, I think the OM was much better inn bed than I was/am.)
I'm presuming that you mean, she limits kisses, in or OUT of bed.
Sad to say, but sounds like you still have a "WAW". She's essentially already walked away from you TWICE. I think she has decided to just live together with you "for the kids", and she's decided she'll just stick things out until they are gone.
Doesnt neccessarily mean that is what will happen. but sounds like that is her mental attitude for right now.
I think that you in any way trying to get her to "act interested", or bugging her about that, will make things even worse for you. Because that will be something she will resent you for Even More, for 'forcing' her to do something on top of something she already doesnt want to do(have sex with you).
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle