Broken Tree WAW- MLC

[whatisis]

Uh, ditto what the bug lady just said!

[Broken Tree]

OK guys, I got it. I just don't want her to do anything rash.

Today was a long hurtful day. I hated it. Didn't eat at all.

I am going out to GAL with some buddies and eat some steak.

Thanks much for your input.

[Broken Tree]

Detaching is very hard but I am doing the best I can. We both went out last night and she got home after me and i did not ask one question last night nor this morning. She said she would be home at 8:30 for the kids and she got home after 11:00.

She has been lieing more and more lately.

She keeps reminding me she dose'nt love me that way any more, I am convinced she is trying to convince herself of this. I don't know when her L appointment was rescheduled bit I think she wants to go straight forward with the D or at least a separation of some kind. I know I am assuming to much.

S12 and I are off to Richmond VA (6hrs) for a soccer tournament today for the weekend.

[minkerman]

Good luck, Tree. The time away will be good.

[Broken Tree]

Thanks Mink. I was away last weekend, going to VA this weekend and going to VT next weekend. What do you think about this? To much time away? To much space?

It breaks my heart to think that my W will be hanging around in Bars or with OM. I can not assume but this is what is running through my mind.

[minkerman]

You asked:
What do you think about this? To much time away? To much space?

My answers:
I think it's the best thing right now. No. No.

Remember Tree, you have no control over what she does. Even if she does the things you are assuming...she will do them anyway, regardless of your reaction.

All you can do is what is best for you and yours.

You should probably go back on your notes that (I hope) you took when talking with your DB coach Jody...I look back on mine all the time.

[Broken Tree]

Thanks Mink. These are my thoughts also but wanted to check with the board. How are you doing? Have fun at the concert tonight and with W Saturday.

I just picked up a book at the library called "The Good Divorse".

I hope it does not jinx me but I now feel I am heading that way and want to be on top of what is the best thing for my kiddo's.

Cheers and have a great weekend.

[Broken Tree]

Made it to VA safely. Talked to S12 all the way here which was 7Hrs. Any idea's what to say to a 12 year old about WAW MLC and S?

[minkerman]

I think all you need to say to S12 is that Mom and Dad are working through some things. You don't need to go into any more detail than that, really. You might say that over time, sometimes people end up wanting different things out of life, and that may be where Mom and Dad are right now.

Whatever you do, don't lay all the blame on Mom...make sure S12 knows that it's 50/50.

This can be very traumatic for a kid, so handle it very carefully, Treeman. No blame.

[Broken Tree]

Mink, what do you think about the Dobson Letter. i think I am ready to send one.