This reminds me of when I found out about my H's current gf. Things had been going well b/t us, and I even thought there was a chance we might get back together. Then I found out - from the kids - that he'd been seeing her for a few months.
Hope, I was devastated. I, too, thought that I couldn't hurt anymore, but I did. And badly. I know it's because I had still hoped that we would get back together, and to me, this was the final nail in the coffin. This was not ow for whom he'd left me. This was someone new; someone he'd chosen to start a new life with. It hurt like hell.
But..there is good news. Once I got over the pain - and I did - it enabled me to really release him. I was finally able to move on with MY life. For me, that meant taking steps toward D, but it doesn't have to mean that for you - that will be your choice. Either way, you now have the opportunity to finally, really grieve for your M b/c it's really over. That's not to say there's no chance you'll ever get back together, but the M you had is done. And, Hope, that's a good thing, even though it doesn't seem like it right now.
I am sending you big hugs and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Love, Nicola
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