Lan, just how important is this family party to you? I know you really wanted your W to go in order to show the family you were piecing the M back together, but my thinking is this.....if her LL is "quality time" and she really wants you to be with her....how do you think she would feel if you skipped the party to stay with her....or better yet, the two of you go out for a special dinner? You would be choosing her over your entire family.....and she would know that, and I personally think it would earn you some brownie points!!
My H never put me before his family....at least that is how I felt. If he had done what I just suggested to you, I would have been in hog heaven. Then by the next family gathering, things would be stronger between you two and she would feel better equipped to attend.
If you need to take a gift, you could go early to leave it and then go back to take wife out to dinner and a movie. Just my two cents worth, but I wish you would really think it over.
Husbands don't realize the pressure they place on the wife when she is returning home. They don't mean to......but it does. I also think that her meeting your new friends would be a good idea.....if there is not a lot of flirting between all the friends, b/c that could lead to problems. If there is flirting, dancing with other women, etc......you best stay home with your wife!
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
