Congrats, too, on your anniversary. You're a wise sage and if you want to pop in on my sitch, see http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1382279&page=1#Post1382279.

Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.