Yes, i have done the same. I have also been kinda flirty with the 25 year old at work and one other person who is close to my age. I agree i still stand for my marriage, but just to have someone to talk to, to show you attention. If either of them wanted to go out to dinner or a movie or just grab a drink. I would be all over it. But they seem not to be interested in me. For they know i am married, and i am not sure they know about h. I am pretty sure they do. Well one may but not both.
I have a ring that i bought (keep that in mind) when h and i were married like 10 yrs. I wear it as an anniversary band. Well as of the past weeks it is now on my right hand. I do sometime when h is around put it on my left, but mostly it sits on my right. Why do i do this, i could not tell you.
Maybe this man could turn out to be a nice friend, nothing more than that. YOu both have something in common. your kids.
Could you pop over to my stitch i want to post a question, need your opinion
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Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce
Thanks for posting.. that you've done the same. I haven't said anything more than a hello to this man... well I've also said hello to his little boy... he came up and said something to me the other day so I responded with a "That's great!".
A part of me thinks there has been a change of heart in my H.. I can't be certain about it.. but it's just an intuition. He's contacting me a lot more. During the work week he calls nearly every day while I'm at work.. and he doesn't have to do that.. I know we're being friendly and all but he doesn't need to call me every day.. so it must mean that he wants to talk to me every day. When we spoke this morning I think he actually flirted with me.. It was nice. He was asking about D2 and I said that she's doing well but that she seems to be struggling a bit with the time change as she's very tired in the morning. I said that I have to take her out of her bed still sleeping to get her dressed for daycare. I said that she looks so peaceful, with her mouth hanging open to breathe.. and yet she's still so beautiful.. and he said of course she is.. her mommy looks just as beautiful sleeping and she's a mouth breather too.. Too which I laughed and said that I absolutely was not a mouth breather.. and we bantered back and forth.
He's been calling me Babe or Hun again.. but we haven't had any alone time.. like as in a date as of yet. I think if he initiates a few of those I will feel like we are moving in the right direction.. but for now I'm just focusing on my self help books and not bringing up any relationship talk or anything uncomfortable.
Oh, and he saw some listings of condos/lofts and he said that for now he'd rather we not sell.. because he sees what a wonderful home we have versus what's out there.
So, there is some positivity here.. hopefully it will continue.
W2G
PS.. I forgot to mention that I spoke with the boss today and it sounds like I should be getting my severance letter on Monday or Tuesday of next week.. and now the real self discovery begins.. exciting and a bit scary all at the same time!
I was out partying tonight and that's all I did, finger watching. That's all THEY did too. No man is out of our league honey, read my lips/typing NO MAN...!!
Keep up the good work and keep an eye on the handsome single dad (it seems that you performed a very powerful "as if"there). Your H is totally responding!
I only didn't like the "he is out of my league" thinking. I agree with Kalni there - no man is out of your league. Just re-read your list of positives
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Hey W2G! Thats amazing news !! I was watching yuor sitch for signs of change and then bingo! I bet you must be a bit pleased? I think it is very significant that he has started calling you honey again and the fact that he acknowledged that you two have a lovely home and he doesnt want to sell is definetly a baby step also (a big one!). I heard from a friend back home my BF had said the same thing and I was very encouraged by that...theres no way someone can be done with an R but be so resolute that you're not selling the marital home. And I didnt get the impression (as I dont with yuor H) that they just dont want to sell for NOW, its more about not wanting to let go of it? I know this for myself as my BF is going ahead with selling his other house, as he said, I think its time to let go of that now..but no thoughts like that for ours.
Are you happy to stay living there anyway? (did you not want to sell? I know you have some career uncertainty, so does that affect where you live?)
Also, I agree, thats amazing progress that he is telling you your D is beautiful like her Mum. I'd be thrilled if I heard that! Looks like whatever you are doing is working !? I'm impressed with you noticing other men! I thik that shnows great strength. I've only started to do this this week too. I've been doing notetaking and kept running into the same sweet guy. It struck me how emotionally open and friendly he was and it got me thinking a little too. My BF is so withdrawn (ok, he has depression!! We'll let him off), but he has been for up to 3 years and this guy was a refreshing change. Mind you, he's probably all of 20 ! So a no go anyway.
We all want a little love and appreciation and to feel atrractive. I think its natural to learn to smile at other men! I'm guessing you dont feel guilty about this though, or disloyal?
Not just flirting- really flirting! That's fantastic. And I love that he's calling you Babe and Hun again. Can't wait to see what happens next- whatever you're doing, keep doing it! Hope your weekend is going well,
L.xx
PS. Hey T! Hope SF was good!
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
Just checking in to see how you're doing. I can see your smile and oh how it does sparkle.
It's weird. I haven't noticed men since I met H. Never felt the inclination to "look at the menu". But now I do notice them in a different way.. kinda view them like a curiosity.. like.. what in the heck are those fellers?
As far as fingers go, if you see an indent.. watch out!
