Still Confused - Just not as fresh

[Sugar and Spice]

GF you are too right. Only you know your H and what you can say/do to either avoid or start a fight. My H is the same way and if I were to shake my head and say something, all hell would break loose, but if I have an equally snappy come-back thats not a zinger to him personally, we can just laugh and move on.

The stranger thing works for me sometimes, because then I can remove all emotion from the situation and respond like I would to just anyone, it really is situational.

Its amazing at some of the stuff that my H has said thinking he was being cute and in the sitch we're in, it is so inappropriate and not funny. I just have to take it with a grain of sand and move one. If its something particularly hurtful, I will make a comment or let him know thats not funny, but I find if you can give as good as you get, you can often get your point across and still maintain some levity.