You guys are so sweet to me. Thanks for all your responses. What I was really doing was venting. I heard something in X's voice last night. I know him better than he knows himself really. I heard him leading up to an excuse.
Guys, I have a kid - and 18 YO kid - who loves family, and country, and right, and wants to be a cop. My baby. I told him he has to do what makes him happy with himself and if that's law enforcement, so be it. He certainly has the right demeanor for that job. Calm, cool, collected. I'd probably be scared the rest of my life with that choice, but the choice is HIS. X chose to denigrate the young man and chose to say he's bad because he's shy. What? Anyway, I've seen this pattern with X before. His way of getting out of a commitment is to start talking about people in a bad way. But his offspring? His only two children?
If my son has a calling, then he should follow it. If my son is happy doing what he does, then he should want to try to do that. Isn't it our job to encourage and love them?
I'm upset at X right now. But I'm upset with myself more. If I had kept some control over this "college fund", X would not have the power to start this crap. Even though he's legally bound by it, antything can be changed. That's why we have lawyers. And the big thing here is if he becomes so negative, my son is eventually going to tell him to kiss his A$$ and go away. I believe that is what X is working towards now. Because if it's not spent on my son, it goes to X. Geez.
So what I'm trying to say to those of you out there who have not yet settled, don't take their word. Take complete control and do not leave anything to chance.
When we are told this is a business decision, it is so true. It really, really is.
