He really is acting like he used to when it was fun but making comments that in the current context aren't funny. Like maybe when we separate his parents will buy him our house but he will let me live in a little shed in the back yard.....
My H acts this way, too. It's just his sense of humor and an attempt to keep things light. Like you, I don't particularly find it amusing either, so I understand exactly how you feel.
Puppy's approach would be the logical response to such behavior, but if your H is anything like mine, I find it works best if I just 'play along' with him. For example, my H will say something like, "Don't talk to me with that tone, woman." (He's smiling or laughing when he says stuff like that.) I will respond playfully with, "I just did! What are you gonna do about it?"
One time before my H moved out, he said, "I think I'll buy a trailer and put it on the side of the house for you." (Again, he was joking, although it hurt.) I replied with, "No, I've already got plans to build a kennel out there, just for you!" He couldn't help but laugh, and I do believe an argument was avoided.
Childish? Yeah, probably. But it helps to keep things on the fun side.
Remember, neecy - every bit of advice anyone offers, including me, may be something that worked in their sitch but could backfire in yours. Every M and every individual is unique.
Try something different from what you've been doing that is giving you negative results. Then stand back and monitor what is going on. What's working and what's not.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
