Those pesky MLC symptoms. There aren't too many, just a few.
He still spews some. Especially when I don't entirely agree with him about something. Or I don't go along. The plus side is I usually let him say what he needs to say. And then I don't say a thing back. I just turn around and walk away.
I leave him alone, and after a bit he comes back and apologizes.
He still says from time to time that he likes being alone. And that I'll understand more when I go through it. I've told him that I know adjusting to big life changes/transitions are a big challenge. But, running away and hiding is not the answer and I won't do that. It doesn't make me better than him, I just deal with it differently.
The biggest one is that he struggles with the idea that I love him no matter what. And that he feels that I could do so much better because he doesn't make me happy. It's the old "date someone else, or D me first so I can feel better about me and my decision." This is the one that hurts the most, because it sounds like the ILYBNILWY speech.
He says he knows that I love him, but struggles with accepting that love as unconditional. I understand that because of how he grew up, and his idea of love is different than what we would consider "normal".
Does this make sense?
If you have any more questions, let me know.
Always here to help,
RU
To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides. - David Viscott
