Worried I found DB too late #2

[newnamenewlife]

Hi CW,
I'm so sorry you've been having such a hard time. I just found this new thread of yours and caught up with it. I thought you and your H took turns moving out to an apt. It's not 50/50? Just trying to understand why your S feels like dad is the one not there.

As we've realized before, we are so much in the same boat. I'm pre-separation, but it is inevitable. I too worry about my kids--A LOT. D11, especially, is pre-pubescent and moody and ANGRY at me anyway much of the time (she's also separating from me, developmentally-- what fun! I feel so popular around here, let me tell you.) I SHUDDER to think at what I am in for when this bomb drops. I am going to want to move to TImbuktu.

You have been doing an incredible job at DBing. In fact, these are the first posts of yours where you show any sign of cracking or backsliding. I think, as great as DBing is, we are HUMAN--we are hurt, angry and in pain and we need to be gentle with ourselves when we lose it a bit. DBing is great, but it's also a lot of pressure at times to rise above, let go, act as if. Be proud of yourself for how much of that you've done, are doing and will do--but don't beat yourself up for being a human being--you are a mother with kids and responsibilities and a RIGHT to be hurting.

BIG FAT HUGS COMING YOUR WAY