BobbiJo- I actually like what you did too! I think he has gotten so used to living the way he was/is that a reminder that you are still alive was a good thing!
The thing that strikes me is that you letter wasn't at all a Dear John, it was a roadmap of what needs to be done to rebuild yur marriage. So, let him think on it, and you be still for a while! And congrats on the job!
