No Kalni, that was support for me when I needed it! Thanks!
I waver mentally just because I DO love H, and I know from hearing his mom (she has told me 2 or 3 times how he has been crying at their place) that he IS hurting.....but I would be hurting him more by letting him continue to get by with what he is/has been doing. He needs better for HIMSELF, not just for me.
And he says he is so lost, well if he has been telling me that for weeks, and FEELING that way for months or longer, then he needs to HELP HIMSELF! When I was overweight after having 2 babies, I went to a weight loss center and exercised. When I drank too much and partied too much in college, I went to the counselor and cleaned up my act in a matter of days, not weeks or months....and when I was unhappy with ME a few months ago, I signed up for Ind. Counseling right away, I didn't wait for things to get better on their own. He is so capable in so many ways, he can be capable at this, too if he chooses to be. That is what I need to remember. I already told Kalni this a while ago, it is time for H to do the heavy lifting. Or not, if he chooses not..........
Either way it is out of my control so I am trying to find the switch for that part of my brain.....it needs a break!
