Oh, definitely! My H used to point it out to me all the time...

I believe there is direct connection btw these thoughts and having emotionally abusive parents. If you were constantly scolded and belittled as a child, you are most likely to develop a similar pattern of abuse directed at yourself as adult.

I'm trying to deal with it most of my life...

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