Still Confused - Just not as fresh

[Sugar and Spice]

Neecy,

Puppy is too right. You don't have to give him and explanation for not wanting to be intimate, no means no...period. The other stuff, walk away if you have to or you can always tell him, "We can try and talk later, when you feel better." Its the little victories that help us build to bigger ones.

I am just as guilty of the same things and its nice to have so many people to give you feedback and help. You can do this. If you weren't in love with your H, and he were a stranger, would you let him lead you into a discussion that you did not want? Its really hard, but sometimes, looking at it as if he was someone you didn't know so well helps me detach and focus on what "I" need to do, and not be lead into a situation that will not be beneficial to me or the goal I am trying to accomplish.