actions speak louder than words and he is going to have to not only talk the talk, but walk the walk.
You said it! And that's the only way he'll ever be able to regain your trust or make the M work.
I'm glad he seemed to respond to what I said. I wish I could come up with such good material on the spot in my own stitch!
I totally sympathize with the cake-eating thing. I think my H was doing a bit of that at first. I think in some stitches, especially where the 5LL is physical affection, maintaining some sort of H/W relationship can be helpful, but it's all about what you can stomach. I got sick of the drama as well.
I think you being clear that you are not walking away from him, accepting the uncertainty in your stitch, and taking care of yourself and the kids is healthy detachment.
I am also curious what your H's LL is, even if only for future reference.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
