I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this. I have been following your story and I can relate to your sitch in many ways.
I am not sure that I can offer much advice as my sitch continues to get worse by the day regardless of what I do whether proper DBing or praying or whatever else.
Other than detaching and focusing on you and the kids. In the end we can't do anything about how our H's feel right now other than respect it as we would a friend of ours. Which is terribly hard to do because so many of H's choices affect you and the children. Respect his choice, be strong for yourself and the children.
I think our H's get caught up in the thought of life being so much better if they leave their current sitch. Once reality sets in...then the truth be told about whether or not they were right or wrong.
This process can be painful for all involved, but the bottom line is to always follow what you feel is right for you and the kids. The rest will fall into place!!!!
My heart goes out to you!
M 37 H 37 Married 2yrs (together 7yrs) Son 4yrs old and H has Daughter 11 yrs old H involved with OW since Jan 08 and still seeing OW Still under same roof, but H spending more time with OW as time goes on
