Starting over and intimacy after divorce.

[Willing NJ H]

thanks to everyone. Yes, I have talked to several friends and family members, male and female. I know i'm not ready for a head over heals all out relationship, but I thought I was ready to date and take things slow. I am honest about not being totally ready, but just didn't expect this. My problem with trying to deal with it is that I don't feel certain things. With the separation, the bomb and dealing with the marriage I felt everything. It hurt like hell, the world felt like it was going to end. etc. I went through the stages and it slowly felt better. With this, I felt great about getting my own place, and about dating. I started talking to this woman as I was moving out of my old house, and it was great. After a week or so in the house, reality set in and WHAM. I'm in no hurry, but like spending time with this woman. Should I end it just because it may be too soon and I'm not ready? I let things get this far, and am fine in every aspect but intimacy. As a guy it's frustrating as all hell, especially since I can't control it. I've though about a therapist, but am going to my doctor first. I figure that ruling out the physical stuff will make me feel better. I am putting pressure on myself now because I want to be intimate and I don't want to deal with this stress right now. lol... WTF, I thought I was pretty much over everything, guess not.