H almost had a coronary and told me he was "this" close to walking away after I brought up my plan of buying him off. He really thought that (well, and to some extent me too) that I was going to overlook the difference in child support and not bring it up. He was livid and kept telling me how I had turned things on him and that I'd change all the original plans we had (selling when kids reach 18, him reaping off the top 50% of the proceeds without contributing, other than letting me claim the house).
I actually called him late last night to just tell him how much the house was appraised for, as with the 2 other missing calls within the past month he ignored my msgs, so boo-hoo, I did want to save some time at the mediator and let him know that the house was not worth selling. He didnt' call back, his loss.
We argued a bit, the mediator was pretty good actually, brought us back to business, H just didnt' understand he'd get some $ from me, we wasted 30min explaining him.
We brought up all the facts and came up with other stuff we had to sort, so part of the agreement is fine, the part about the house and who gets to claim the kids for tax purposes is up for grabs, since he won't be seeing an investment in 13yrs H is no longer happy with me claiming both kids and all the excemptions for the house.
So, I have lots to think about til then. He said he prob might go with my plan if I dont' change the figures on him again (i couldnt' if I wanted to anyways), of course he has to run it by other people (has no lawyer, so I'm sure he's going to call anyone he knows about this).
Saw a tag for ow's in his car, it made me so mad, I said a few things about it, how much of a liar he was, he first tried to deny it was hers, then said it wasn't any of my business, I agreed, told him he didnt' have to lie anymore about it, he said he was talking to her sometimes, yea, right. ARGHHH!!! I should NOT care anymore, damn it, that is proving to be so hard, SHEESSS, I guess thats the nature of the beast and that this will take time. When I was approaching his car to give him some stuff i heard him saying "but you threw my stuff on the floor..." dork, back for more grief at ow's, whatever, he wants to be with that crazy then so be it.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
