... Unfortunately, once they cross that line, some people decide "well, i crossed the line now, so here's where I am", and decide that they "cant go back".
... Dom R,
I was giving that as an example.... I have been very tempted... I have had many other opportunities... When I say opportunities, I am not talking about having sex....
I am saying opportunities to really think twice about my M..... To think, this gal really likes me... If I were not with my wife, I could give her a go..... That is where it all starts....
For most people who have an affair, it would seem to be the opposite.
Most people, going by what they wrote, got tempted by the one-night-stand, or the subtly growing emotional affair, FIRST. Most people dont think out and rationalize, "i'm unhappy with my marriage maybe I should give this a go..." They always describe it as, "well, it 'just happened'".
Then, once they are "hooked on a feeling....",
Then, they start "thinking twice" about their commitment to their marriage, rewriting the past, etc, etc.
Dom R,
That is true... There is not one way it progresses.... I guess I am writing when one is married, you should not leave the door "open" to anyone or anything.... You should protect your marriage and respect your spouse....
I believe one needs to analyze any "unhappiness." I believe too many people are blaming their spouse for their "unhappiness" and believe another person can "fix" them..... They need to be happy with themselves BEFORE they can find any other happiness....
No_More_Dodo
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
