Trying to be patient

[SueS]

I think I will be OK no matter what happens. I do hope H doesn't file for divorce right away which I have a feeling will be the next thing OW will be pressuring H to do. First I think she pressured or encouraged him to move out, and then once he does that, I think she will start pressuring or encouraging him to file for divorce. Hopefully H will get tired of her trying to control him, but since I am the complete opposite maybe that is what he is looking for in a relationship now? Karen

Karen- A few responses to your comments, questions.

Yes, lady you will be OK no matter what happens. It will hurt and I'm sure not be easy, but in the end, you'll be ok. Yeah, OW will probably pressure him on some things. Don't be so sure that your H is looking for someone who is controlling. He might be someone whose not really sure what he wants. If she is controlling, it might be too much control. My H was married before. His ex was VERY controlling. I, am not. He's not happy with either one. He felt she was too controlling, yet he claims to have no respect for me because he does what he wants, when he wants. It's not that I have never said my peace, I just didn't want to rock the boat because I could see him getting angry when I would. He wasn't happy either way. I don't think any man truly will want to be controlled. Your H probably already feels "controlled" because he has a W & kids. Does that make sense?

And who knows what your H has told OW about your changes. He may not have said anything. Just him being at the house with you is enough to probably bother her. He says your changes are too late, but yet he acknowledges them.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. You and the kids.....and even your H are in my thoughts and prayers.

SueS