LMG, stick to your guns. IMO, there's a difference between trying to make your H look bad and just putting the truth out there. I made my H take responsibility for our separation because it was the truth. I didn't want my kids to think there was any part of me that thought this was a good idea. It's very important to me that they know my morals and ethics on this.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09