what I wrote, doesnt make having an affair less wrong. what I wrote, implies that, if a person chooses a dark path for themselves for a season, that does not neccessarily define "who they really are". Rather, it means that they gave in to temptation. Unfortunately, once they cross that line, some people decide "well, i crossed the line now, so here's where I am", and decide that they "cant go back". I find that very sad, if their spouse is willing to forgive, but they are too proud to ask for forgiveness.
There is free will. there is still the posibility for that person to choose otherwise in the future. They may very well NOT choose otherwise. But... people do sometimes change. for better or worse.
As far as your own temptation goes... you had only minor opportunity. In that you had someone who was apparently interested in you. But you didnt have much OPPORTUNITY or temptation to do so. You only saw her at work. You would have to make a whole bunch of concious decisions, and a lot of effort, to turn that potential interest, into a full-blown affair.
You refer to your EX-wife. Imagine, if you will then, if it was the time just before you were officially divorced..and the "giddy brunette" was around you then.. AND you were off on a business trip with her... AND you were at the same hotel... AND she had come over to your room, and was telling you what a great guy you were compared to your wife...
maybe you cant really imagine it. Which is great for you; because it means you havent been truely, deeply tempted. That makes you lucky. not a saint.
Dom R,
I was giving that as an example.... I have been very tempted... I have had many other opportunities... When I say opportunities, I am not talking about having sex....
I am saying opportunities to really think twice about my M..... To think, this gal really likes me... If I were not with my wife, I could give her a go..... That is where it all starts....
The opportunity to have sex you allude to comes from acting on that thought and spending time with that person.... I think we are all smart enough to recognize where and when we can be tempted and avoid those situations.... The bad people choose to put themselves in those situations.... The good people will avoid any potential appearance of wrongdoing...
My question, my friend, is what if you were a single guy... You met a really nice woman at church, synagogue or where ever you think you would find a good woman... You get to know her... You find she bailed on her fifteen year marriage without going to counseling or giving the M any chance.... She claims she has "changed," would you take a chance on her?
I would not.... I would MUCH rather be with a woman like my new W... She stuck with her fiancee through his issues with alcohol.... He was in inpatient rehab for thirty days.... She was there for him.... How did he reward her? He bailed one week before their wedding ceremony... A few months later, he realized what a huge mistake he had made and began chasing after her... What a dumb ass!
By the way, what did my new W do after he bailed? Heartbroken, she personally returned each wedding gift they had received.... EVEN his family's gifts... She personally repaid EVERYONE who spent money on the wedding. She gave each of the bridesmaids the money they had paid for their dresses and shoes.. She paid all the expenses for the catering and whatnot herself.... That speaks volumes as to who my new W is.... I love her character... She is truly a Proverbs 31 woman...
Quote:
10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
I think we can agree to disagree on this one...
No_More_Dodo
Last edited by No_More_Dodo; 03/14/0804:10 PM.
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
