Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[newnamenewlife]

IMO it's best not to vilify your H, but I know there are differing opinions with regards to this

I'm not going to vilify him or try to get the kids to take sides, BUT he will have to take responsibility for this being his decision. He has made a unilateral decision, given our M no chance at all. He is creating a great deal of pain and loss and financial problems and I am devastated. I DO put all my strength into being there for my Ds and I will do everything to make their lives as happy and whole as possible. But I WILL NOT PRETEND that this is a mutual decision. That doesn't work for me and the kids will know anyway.

I will try to be sympathetic and say that daddy still loves them but he didn't want to stay married to me and it's sad but we'll be OK--but I won't pretend that this was the way I wanted things to go.