Update: No reply to the email. And no deposit into my account.
She is making a mistake in the way she is handling the finances. If this becomes a contested divorce, her behavior will not be taken well by the family court judge. He has a reputation as being very fair-minded, and has a low tolerance for spouses who take matters into their own hands. Also, her purchase of the puppy (and a few other things) could be interpreted as "parental alienation." Either she is getting bad advice or no advice from her attorney.
Regarding the lunch today... the power lies with me. I am in the position of strength here. I hold the cards. Contrary to what she has said in the past, she does not want to be the "bad guy." She does not want her infidelity leaked all over town. And the way things are going, this is exactly the path that she is choosing. Word's gonna get out, and when it hits the street, nobody's gonna blame me a bit for heading to the courthouse.
