I have had a hard time seeing the link betweeen my LD and his emotional and angry outbursts. I did listen to some of MWD radio program on a different website. She said that things that made sense to me that my H would be feeling re: SEX. Me? I needed more emotional connection and my H he needed it thru SEX......
Hey Alimari, I'm not sure that I can provide any advice to you on this issue, but I just wanted to post to let you know that I was reading about your situation. The struggle with LD and your feelings seems to be very close to what my W is going through. We are currently piecing and have been now for about two months. Our love making in this time has been fantastic. The frequency, excitement and passion has been better than any other point in our R. Now for about the past week, things have slacked off. I'm not doing anything different, in fact I'm trying to be more affectionate and loving in an effort to spark that desire in her. It seems like the more I try though, the more frustrated or irritated she gets with my attempts to be affectionate. I'm sure others that are reading this will say, "Come on man, give your W a break. So its been a slow week!", and I know I shouldn't take this too personally. She's been stressed recently with some job issues and I can't expect constant fireworks. It just seems like this easily can easily become a repeating cycle.
W not in the mood, I try to be affectionate, W withdraws, I get frustrated, W gets frustrated that I'm frustrated, I get distant and don't talk because I'm frustrated, W doesn't get the quality time and communication from me that she needs to feel good about us, and so on and so forth.
I want to head this off before it becomes an issue. How do you break this cycle? I want us to have regular affection and love just being close and connected with her. I don't need it to always turn into sex. I need for her to understand this. We do talk about this, but I sometimes wonder if my actions reflect what I'm saying.
Originally Posted By: sgctxok
It will take me awhile to go through your threads on each forum. It will be easier to follow if you keep to one forum and one thread at a time. It is probably best to stay on Newcomers.
Alimari, personal opinion only, but I would like to see you keep this thread here.
