in my opinion:

"asking how she feels"[in general! not about your R/marriage/...] shows caring.

asking "how's the separation going", is seriously pressuring "R talk".


PS: "In another couple of months the long hours will decrease to regular hours..."

in my opinion, "a couple of months" will be too late for you. you will miss a critical time for your family, in where both your daughter, and your wife need you, right now.

but that's just me. i dont fully know your situation, or your wife, or your daughter.


Sometimes, there's a middle road.
Maybe you only THINK you have to put in all those extra hours.. but if you spoke to your boss or something, told him you were going through a difficult family time and the extra hours are difficult right now... maybe you wouldnt have to.

Last edited by Dom R; 03/14/08 05:23 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle