Not sure how to handle this

[mishka422]

The department does have a staff psychologist but H doesn't like him. He thinks he's an arrogant a$$ who just talks to hear his own voice. He's also concerned that even though the talks are confidential there still could be some sort of backlash if he said something that made the psychologist diagnose him as depressed. That could put him in a desk job for heavens only knows how long and destroy his career.

I understand his fears about that but he also knows he needs the help. I can't ask him if he called any of the counselors today, I can't ask him anything. I have this man in my bed who doesn't communicate with me in any meaningful way but tells me that our M is coming apart because we don't communicate. Excuse me? What the heck am I supposed to do. I can't tell him anything about the way I feel because he will run scared and he won't tell me anything that he is feeling unless I ask him specifically but I'm not supposed to do that either.

I'm so confused! Now I'm scared to death to pursue any kind of counseling for us. I don't want him to be more confused.

I'm going to pray and sleep on it and hope to feel better about things in the morning.