OK, I'm past the big D, past my X and on with my life.
But when you have children, the repercussions of the D stay with us until well after the age of 18.
My biggest concession with X and the D was to walk away from so much with his agreement to pay for their college educations. It was something that I thought at the time was the right thing to do. I just posted to Queenie today about 50% of nothing is nothing... ...and why we expect the aliens to come through on their promises when they couldn't even manage to respect wedding vows.
But I had a strange conversation with X tonight. It's making me a bit afraid. He was - I don't know - mean about the boys. Doesn't like their personalities. Nitpicking things. Stupid things.
I have a feeling in my gut. I know those of you who have been with me for a long time know that my D was about money. My X is about money. It matters more than anything to him.
I think this is a prelude to him getting out of his promise. I hope I am wrong. I feel I am right.
So, if anyone out there is thinking about ending a M and settling, think about the future. Think about your kids' future. These guys don't care. They don't are about anyone except themselves. And they don't change with time either. Make certain you have every I dotted and every T crossed.
If I had known then what I know now, I would have taken their half from X. That way, they'd be assured and I would not have this sinking feeling right now. he did not say he would not pay up. He only complained about them. Complained and complained. Just like he once complained about me. I know this pattern.
AND I don't know that I would fight him if he refused. But my kids will have that opportunity. I'll make certain of that one way or the other.
MLC - no. A crisis does not last this long. This is a person's character.
