My toes are pointing towards him but as well as my heart but my mind right now is elsewhere and since my actions and talk this week are so 180 of what they have been since he left he seems more at ease around me so I am to believe I should continue on that path for a bit. He is getting exactly from me what he asked for when he left and that is space.
See you get it and yet you dismiss it. I can see where he sees Queen B. right now. Rightfully so. The response's to conflict are Fight, Flight or Fear. You are a fighter. He's got wings. Thats ok. One of you has to change. Read the above post. What is wrong with space? I told you I was sick. Was not up to the task. You were completely fine with letting me get some space. Yes, I really am sick just my spin on things.
#2..
He very quickly corrected me and said he is still living with his parents which is the total opposite of what he said just the previous weekend about living with friends up town who are taking care of him and helping him.
When people use words like "quickly corrected" I perk up. Why was he QC'ing you. My mind wanders into Queen B might have showed up. Or Mrs. Fix It. He knows your tones. Your words. As much as you want to deny it he does. What was your "Emotion" saying to him?
Ok... so I feel I need to qualify my use of "". Typically that means I don't want you to think of the true definition of that word. I am asking you to, well, put yourself into that word or words. It is my attempt to show and focus emotion. So to put it into practice lets take the last sentence.
What was your "Body language, Tonal inflections, Your hands, What was going thru your mind." saying to him?
I understand I may not get a honest assessment of what really went on. The reason I say that is that you may not know what you do that just smacks him the wrong way. Thats ok.
Remember... You are about to learn more about your husband than you ever thought possible.
#3... It really seems like since I have backed way off this past week he is coming around and behaving more like the old Danny he used to be long before he left.
What? I can't hear you. Can you speak up please! Oh.. I got it now. He was asking for space. He got a little bit. Look at what happens when someone listens. Even though they weren't. Yes. I left off the analysis's part. Cause it had poop all over it.
Little break. I will be back. Friday is coming.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
