I also think that if our WAS's could have been honest and said " hey, I am not happy in the marriage what can we do to try and fix it" instead of running and having an affair, maybe I for example would not have such an issue with honesty and trust. Hope that makes sence \:\)

found out about affair 8/06
H moves out Nov/06
D final 8/07
X re marries OW 5/08
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Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow".
-- Mary Anne Radmacher