Purr, You are right on the testing , I need to keep thinking when she is around , not get sucked in to reacting in ways that I would have pre DB'ing. Example W was home yesterday , and not in one her better moods , once apon a time I would have reflected her mood right back at her , with the usual result. This time she was trying to read E mail and the computer was going extra slow , I just asked is something frustrating you I can help with ? She expresssed her frustration about it being slow , I validatated and left her too it. Her mood picked up soon after. The lesson here is that nothing needs to be fixed , she just wants someone to share her feeling.
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Slow and steady is the way for sure. Its so good to hear from you.
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Being patient is not easy , but I seem to be right back in the game. But its quite a different game. I would bet neither of us wants our old M , we both are unsure about each other and if we want a future together. We are both reasonably unattached .
There has been no passionate contact since that night but perhaps the desire is hiding under the surface.
I wanted to go out and have some beers with friends last night and asked W to drop me off on her way home , which she did happily. Later my expected ride home did not eventuate so I though why not text W . 20 minutes later she arrives, Quite happy to give me a lift and looking for a Kiss when she dropped me off.
