Well, in my case W eventually realized what she did was wrong. And she swore she'd never do it again. But of course we have to realize that the WAS who asks for a DIVORCE doesn't see it as an affair because they are 'separated' and getting divorced.
I don't know if she has or hasn't banged anybody. I know she has an EA at the least. I know she has given herself permission to date if she 'feels like it'. She's getting divorced so she is 'free'.
It doesn't matter really. I know she is capable of it right now and really, that's enough for me. As far as I'm concerned she HAS done it because she WANTS to.
So, no matter. She isn't my W, she is the teenage girl again. Angry, everything is my fault. Same old stuff.
It's kind of sad that right now my major goal is to get back on my feet financially so she can move out and I can get some peace in my life. It's so sad that you can love someone who supposedly loved you, and then end up in this place where they have nothing to give but anger. I have never, ever, had anyone who 'loves me' treat me like this except for her.
And I thought I was smart enough to avoid those kinds of women. Problem is, I got one but didn't realize it until I had kids and a commitment.
