IMO, Michelle put it perfectly.

Now as to possibly losing any more ground, I think that will only happen if you don't stick to the boundaries you set forth.

You gave him a date - in one of your posts you said it was July 4th. I don't think your H needs to be reminded, unless HE initiates an R talk that you can't get out of. That's when you can remind him that you won't be a part of his R with OW. You won't tolerate it in your M.

In the meantime, you need to focus on you. Control your actions as well as your reactions. No more flipping the finger, no more drama. I know you're hurting and you want to lash out, but is it really going to help your M in the end?

Be the better option. Be the better person. Do not focus on the A. Focus on YOU.

Last edited by GoingForward; 03/13/08 11:49 PM.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell