Helloooo...Smoother Ride....Where Are You?? - Pt.2

[Yoyowife]

Sue,
Where are you? We miss you...

[SueS]

Hello everyone-

It's been quiet around my house the past few days, so there's not much to say.

I got on the computer last night to again find more rental listings that OW has sent my H......all in the area of the city she now lives in. Apparently it's all for the convenience of her and her kids. Not to be rude to the kids, but where does that put my D3?

Last night D3 called H before she was to go to bed. He talked for about 1 minute and told her he'd call her back. We called his cell 2 hrs. later. He should have been home by then. No answer. Still no H by 11:00 pm last night. I get angry for D3 when that happens. All she wanted was to talk to her dad. She snuggled with me all night. I usually put her in her bed after she falls asleep but I thought.....what the heck....this is nice.

H is going out of town tomorrow. D3 and I have made plans for the weekend. A movie on Sat. & a visit to my aunt & uncle on Sunday. H will be home Sat. evening, but the visit to my aunt & uncle is local and very much needed. We're not extremely close, but their door is always open to us and I need to make sure they know we're thankful for that. D3 loves them too!

Still having a bit of a concentration problem at work.....heck, with everything. I've been trying to read at night a little, just to relax. I let D3 lay on the bed with me and watch a kids program while I read. It's nice. She snuggles up to me and it's great.

Well, like I said, it's been quiet around here.

Oh, if anyone wants some music to listen to I have a suggestion. There's a band from this region of the country called The BoDeans. They've been around for years. They're probably most famous for their theme song to the TV show "Party of Five". They have a new CD out called Still. Great songs. My favorite is Hearing. It's available on Amazon too.

Take care.....

SueS

Yoyo.....You're so sweet. I just saw your post when I hit Submit! Thanks for caring and checking on me. I'll email you soon.

[fightingirish]

sues,

Sounds like a great wkend for the both of you. Enjoy it!! keep your mind occupied and just have fun in the company of someone who loves you a bunch.

Is that a country group? I don't listen to country, mostly to either old rock (RUSH)... or celtic. Im listening to some Irish music right now.. Its so upbeat.. what I need right now!



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[NoCodeBlues]

The BoDeans are/were sort of what I would call avante garde not-so-mainstream rock. (They're not country but I understand their group takes their name from the character Jethro BoDean of the Beverly Hillbillies.)

I like all kinds of music, including Irish folk. The Chieftains, Clannad, Bowery Boys, ... the Pogues

[SueS]

NoCode is right. The BoDeans have been around since the mid 80's. They're from WI, but travel all over. We've seen them quite a few times from CO to IL. We took D3 to a free outdoor concert of theirs that Minneapolis put on last July. She LOVED it. Their a fun band to see.

[JoieDeVivre]

Did you decide to do breakfast with H tomorrow morning? You seemed undecided about it. I know you take him up on stuff like that for your D3. Glad you've made plans for the weekend. Sounds fun...

[LL44]

Hi Sue, glad you checked in.

Your weekend sounds wonderful. It'll be nice to not worry about when H is going to be home, I am enjoying that freedom with H out of the house.

Still having a bit of a concentration problem at work.....heck, with everything.

I hope this is normal. I have a hard time anywhere. I am constantly changing the radio stations in the car without realizing it, can hardly watch TV unless its an absolute favorite show, work..oh geesh, don't get me started. With H gone now, I find myself wandering around the house a lot, can't settle anywhere. I feel ya sister.

Take care!

PS You asked where this possible new situation leaves your D3?? With you, at home, in a safe, stable environment. Your H won't deserve her precious time if he moves into his 'new' family. Barf.

[SueS]

Hi Joie & lwb-

We'll see about breakfast tomorrow. If we get up in time, we'll still go. It's all about D3 though.

lwb...I'm sorry for you too, but I'm glad I'm not the only one that can't concentrate. I guess it is normal. I'm like you. I find myself wandering the house looking for something to do. I've been trying to read a little at night to calm myself down a bit.

Thanks for the comment about about where the possible new situation leaves D3. You always say the right thing. I will make it a safe, stable place for her. I know it will be hard wondering what H is doing, but I'm sure there will be a part of me that will be glad I'm not involved in that mess. I truly don't think H has any idea what he's getting himself into. D3 and I will be away from that and able to do our thing. I'm going to work on getting more involved at work. I plan a lot of events but don't get to participate because of our schedules. I'll see if my aunt & uncle or my cousin can babysit. I should have done that all along, but didn't. That will probably be something that H will criticize me for.....why didn't you do that when we were together...blah, blah, blah.

H called me at work today. I did ask him about not being able to reach him last night. He gave me very poor excuses/reasons. I could tell in his voice he was aware I knew he wasn't being completely honest with me.

Well, time to get dinner started.

SueS

[SueS]

Journaling..........

H was out again last night. We saw him briefly and then he left. Actually, how it worked was this... H had to pick up a rental car for his trip out of town today. I now see a mistake I made. I work for a major rental car co. He made a reservation for a veh to receive my discount. We (D3 & I) gave him a ride to the rental location last night after he got off work. The ride was approx. 10 minutes. As he got out of the car, he said....I'm going out for a while. HUH??? D3 was very bummed. She had expected daddy to come home and spend a little time with her. NO!....more important to go out.

H got home very, very late.....about 2:30-3:00 am. And, he wanted sex. ??? Didn't happen. He was a bit too intoxicated and fell asleep. I had gotten up to check on D3 to avoid the whole mess of him getting angry when I said no. He had wanted to go to breakfast this morning. I thought about not giving him the experience of spending time with D3 and just leaving him to oversleep and get out of town late. However, I decided to wake him up EARLY and watch him suffer from his headache. We went to breakfast and off he went out of town. And, yes, I'm sure he's by himself. He has shared far too many details of his trip with me and he called from the road not long ago.

My mind still wonders about how he thinks this new life with OW will work. His going out drinking and going out of town and doing his own things is so much a part of him. He's not a person that can just settle things down once they are together. He made so many promises to me over the years that were never kept. Some very important promises, like not drinking when I was pregnant or like making sure I could stop working after D3 was born. Even small things like being home on time are never things he's been able to do. I guess I should have known years ago when he thought it was no big deal that he wasn't home in time for me to go to a fitting for my wedding dress....and didn't even call me to say he'd be late. His response....so you make another appointment.

Well, the pressure is off now until tomorrow evening when he gets back home.

Our landlord just emailed me and wants to come over on Sunday to discuss the fact that our lease is ending on 7/31. H and I have not talked about this. It would be a bit uncomfortable for it all to come out when the landlord is sitting there.

Have a great day!

SueS

[Rob1231]

My mind still wonders about how he thinks this new life with OW will work.

There's your first mistake - assuming he THINKS at all....

Our landlord just emailed me and wants to come over on Sunday to discuss the fact that our lease is ending on 7/31. H and I have not talked about this. It would be a bit uncomfortable for it all to come out when the landlord is sitting there.

You have plenty of lead time on this - just tell the landlord that H won't be home in time, and suggest another date in a week or two.

In the meantime, don't rely on H to come up with any brilliant ideas of what happens next. He's not planning, he's reacting.

Instead, take the initiative here. At this point in your sitch, what do YOU want to do?