Nut's post was amazing. Perfectly worded. Its time to protect yourself. She is cake eating. Not necessarily from you, but from the situation that's for sure. I never saw it that way until nut pointed it out. She is getting the benefits of being married, yet treating her husband so horribly. Not right. You have been a gentlemen all along, and provided her a safe path 'home' if she wanted. But she can't do this to you. She just can't.