I guess taken out of context, it would look bad, but i guess it was just because the whole night he had been upset and kinda on edge and after asking him if he wanted to talk or tell me about his day or anything, he said no.
To me, that means he doesn't want to talk to me. Fine, Not letting it bother me because i can't anymore. I can't worry about why he's throwing a fit and why he doesn't want to talk to me about it.
So, at one point, he gets up to do something, got frustrated about it and then tried to give me a hard time about it. I explained to him that it was not my fault and that he didn't need to raise his voice to me.
Later, he did it again and he asked about where something was, i told him i didn't know and left it at that. It's not so much that he was getting angry at me, but that he was yelling and cussing and just being a brat about it really. So I chose not to say anything else.
I do understand your point and appreciate it. It is definately important that 1) i keep lines of communication open, even if he's not expressing it well and 2) stand up for myself when he is just getting mad at me for no reason. I think in this case, its more him getting upset and where i normally would have gotten up and found whatever he was looking for or tried repeatedly to figure out what was wrong, I just answered his quesion and left it alone. It may seem like a game, but for me, it's really the only way for me to keep functioning and not fall apart when he does that.
I really care when he has bad days and I want to be there to encourage him and support him and help him get through them but if he doesn't want me to, I'm not going to take part in his frustration and anger. If he choses not to share his life with me after I ask, then that's his choice. i can be an amazing wife to him if he would just give me the chance.
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