Anyway under adulterers it said those who cheat, esp. those who have done it more than once, rarely respond to mild interventions. Basically it said they are not beyond redemption, but it basically takes the wounded spouse calling for separation or divorce to get their heart to soften to the point they are willing to work on their problems...
Michelle mentions something similar as the final last resort technique where it does indeed require one to file for a D as the thing to force the awakening, but she warns that it can backfire.
Originally Posted By: BobbiJo
SOOOOO, that pretty much chucked my marriage in the dumpster. I said I can't be your wife anymore, I can't live with things the way they are anymore, etc. And that is all true. But it sucks.
I dont think you have chucked anything just yet. You just feel you have done all you can and now you have decided to set some boundaries for Iowa. We all have our limits and breaking points. I somehow dont feel that BobbiJo is done with her M.
Only you can decide when all hope is lost in restoring your M to a happy one. You also need to picture how your life would be post D. All I have read from you indicates a strong and smart lady that should have no problem picking up the pieces and moving on with her life. But you still love your H and all you have built together in life. I have to tell you that you have many more months of confusiong and uncertainty ahead - lets just hope that with the support you get here and through your church that you will get through it and be a happy and content BobbiJo.
